My partner and I have tried different ways to add excitement to our relationship. By far, the most satisfying of these adventures is using a remote-controlled vibrator in public—discreetly, of course.
We started using vibrators in public accidentally at a restaurant, and from then on, we’ve repeated the experiences in many other places. We’ve had fun in public parks, inside trains, and on the beach.
Don’t get me wrong… Sexual pleasure in the house is satisfying—whether in the bedroom or living room. Having a pleasurable experience with my lover outside is a rare chance that makes me reach the highest pleasure points.
However, from my experiences, apart from the sexual excitement part, there are things you can get away with within the house that will not cut it with society types while outside.
That’s why this article goes into first-hand detail, and explains how to discreetly use a remote vibrator in public—and get away with it, based on some of my real-world experiences.
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This Is What I Learned When Using Vibrators in Public
In one of my pleasurable moments in a restaurant, I had to use a public toilet to fit my vibrator in the vagina. It was those moments when sudden sexual urges overcame me, and I gave in. However, on other occasions, I have worn the vibrator right from home and had it on for quite some time.
Noteworthy issues to consider from that experience are that anyone wishing for an outside adventure will need some privacy. That is if you wear a vibrator outside the house.
Private spaces come in handy in situations where you forget to put on sex toys at home. But hygiene levels in some of those places considered private might be a turn-off.
In addition, there are rules governing the time to switch the vibrator on when wearing it continuously outdoors to avoid toxic shock. You also want to avoid the toy losing battery and becoming useless, especially if you have no privacy to remove it then.
My outside use of sex toys has made me discover that vibrator apps are the best way to navigate sexual pleasure out in the open. It is never easy to remove a toy in public to spark it into action, as done at home.
Sexual toys come in many sizes and shapes, and a well-fitted toy that stays in place will give you more peace of mind than those that do not. Public spaces have huge crowds, and I’ve struggled at times to enjoy stimulation when my toy keeps falling out of position.
Getting Started With Vibrators Outdoors
Public spaces are full of diverse people who share different values and principles. Most times I have been out with my vibrator turned on, I have had to be careful. My vibrator could not run continuously without someone noticing.
Loud vibrators in small gatherings can be a bother to many people. I would also not recommend having a running motor near a family with children in a restaurant or other family gathering setting. Some public spaces are sacred, and family values rank amongst the highest of those.
Here are some tips that help navigate sexual pleasure in the open spaces:
Make Sure the Vibrator Stays Quiet
A silent vibrator is better and more exciting for use outside than a noisy one. However, many tools that I have found online have not considered the hushed feature, which is fine.
So, the only way to get the assurances of a silent vibrator is by reading online reviews and doing the tests personally.
That could take you a while, which is why I’ve put together this handy guide to help you navigate and understand what you’ll be reading.
Ways to Read the Right Vibrator Reviews Online
When I started using sex toys outside my residence, I trusted the manufacturers fully. Most descriptions I found online often state that the vibrator is one of the quietest anywhere. However, when active with the vibrator outdoors, that is never the case.
I have learned to look elsewhere, apart from manufacturers’ sites, for honest reviews. That is, in social groups, YouTube review videos, and websites that have several reviews about sex toys.
I have written a couple of comments about some toys that I have used before on websites. I also feature a number of honest, personal, first-hand user reviews about my favorite toys here.
Websites such as Lovehoney have a dedicated section that gives customers like me a platform to rate the noise levels of a vibrator. The scale runs from one to five. A rating of five means that the vibrator can run in less crowded places without grabbing the attention of others.
YouTube has been most resourceful in my sex escapades outside the house. Reviewers on the platform turn on the vibrator to give a first-hand experience of the noise level at full throttle.
For newbies, the information—and noise levels!—might be too much, at first. It usually takes several attempts to use the phone speakers to work out the noise levels properly for the vibrators reviewed on YouTube.
How to Test a Vibrator’s Noise Level
For most people like us who use sex toys, we have many vibrators lying around the house. It will not do any justice to them if we picked a new vibrator online without testing the ones we already own for comparative noise levels.
Testing how loud a vibrator is takes several simple steps. However, I would like to point out that these simple steps are for iPhone users only, because noise-testing apps work differently in each phone model. I have had some mismatched results before when using my partner’s Android.
On my iPhone, I have the Decibel X app running, which I found in the App Store. The app has a meter that measures the loudness or quietness of a vibrator in dB. The app will start taking measurements at the moment a vibrator starts running.
Measurements of below 50 dB are good enough for outside use. Anything above the 50 dB figure will get people talking and staring while in compact public spaces with average noise.
The Decibel X app does a good job measuring noise levels indoors and outdoors, but it can bring some confusing results. 50dB on my phone could mean 70 dB on another model.
However, to avoid this, I have found the music or TV test more accurate and simple. It is safe to say, the TV test works better for me.
The test requires a quiet space in the house. I found more success using my phone speaker in the garden.
Often, I begin the test with a standard volume level while music is playing, which I pit against a vibrator turned to the max mode. If my ears pick out the vibrations, then I conclude that the sex toy is not fit for public spaces.
The TV test uses the same principle. However, it is more accurate because in many places I have visited, a TV runs 24 hours. If my vibrator exceeds the standard volume level set for the TV, I do not use it outside the house for sexual stimulation.
Why Remote Controlled Products Are Best for Outside Use
In public, many people do not appreciate nudity, apart from my partner. I find that using remote-controlled vibrators is the best way to appreciate and respect other peoples’ spaces out in the open.
Remote-controlled vibrators are not any sexier than manual ones, but they remove the uncomfortable need to tune the vibrator fitted in the depth of the vagina. It is also easier to jump into different vibrating modes with a remote, not just outside, but indoors, too.
Remote Controlled Vibrators vs. App-Controlled Vibrators Comparison
I have a ton of vibrators; some have their own remotes outside of the box, while others integrate with an app. However, I find the integrated app to be more flexible and fun. Here is why:
Remote Controlled
To kick off the debate, I have used remote-controlled vibes for some time, and I find them fun to use. What puts me off with their use is the range and the limited options for stimulation.
Many remote-controlled sex toys have a range of about 10 feet, meaning that you have to be close to your partner to have any fun. The ones with longer ranges that I was able to find reached 20 feet. The distance is too short to have any fun.
Sex toys that come with remotes do not offer a lot of flexibility. Usually, the remotes match the number of buttons, like the ones on the vibrator. As much as I like the flexibility of having every button within a thumb’s reach, I do not appreciate the limited options that still gives me.
Another downside I found with remotes is that they require a pair of AA batteries to function. The little energy sources can run out of juice at the height of excitement, and replacing them is not that appealing.
Carrying extra batteries is also a turn-off for me. Besides, would I realistically go to a public restroom to change the batteries, even if I did happen to have spares on me? Highly unlikely.
App-Controlled Vibrators
App-controlled vibrators have that outdoor vibe that takes the sex game to a new level. I find them satisfying because they offer a lot of flexibility and are more modern.
Since I started using them, I have found that they can eliminate the need to take my partner everywhere I go. A simple video call with my partner from the park or a restaurant can turn into a pleasurable moment in seconds. Remote-controlled sex toys have an unlimited range.
Sex toys integrated into apps have many options. Some allow the combination of music drawn from other applications or internal storage. Remote-controlled vibrators have many modes, which can total over 10 vibrations for that additional fun while out.
Silence is one of the issues to consider when taking a vibe in public. Remote-controlled vibes can tune a compatible vibrator for an outside mode without interfering with closed space modes that require a bit of aggression with the motors.
App-controlled vibrators also have an additional layer of privacy. Many people shrug off what I am doing with my partner because, from afar, we look like two people basically ignoring each other, engrossed in our phones.
Some disadvantages I have faced so far with app-controlled vibrators are that they are hard to set up. Most require connectivity, so they might not work in remote areas that have little coverage. Some apps also drain the phone battery fast, meaning I have to carry a charger or make sure I am on a full charge when taking it out.
Why It Is Important to Have a Vibrator That Stays in Position While Out
Vibrators can be a bit of a bummer if they do not fit well in the places they are stimulating. When they move around or fall off, they can put you at the center of attention in public spaces.
I have experimented with many vibrators, and the ones with an inside or outside arm are the best for use outside. The internal stimulators firmly hold them in place; they will not come out even after extreme provocation with intense vibration modes. The arms do not just grip the vibrators, but they are there to improve stimulation.
Some vibrators do not have arms; they stay on top of undergarments. I find them pleasurable because they move around, increasing the surface area of excitement, but they will not target the most sensitive parts. People using them must stay fixed at one point for maximum pleasure.
For those moments, I have found myself with vibrators without strong arms. Wearing tight panties has helped put them in position.
Setting Up Rules for Vibrating in Public
Rules are important everywhere, even in outdoor sex escapades. While surprising sexual stimulation is impressive when done by a partner, it can be a turn-off when not done at the right moment. Here is where rules come into play.
The following are some questions that have helped me set the ground rules for my partner when we are out having fun:
- What is the right time to switch the vibrators on when we are outside?
- How high should the intensity of the vibrator reach while outside?
- How quickly can my partner turn up the intensity?
Some other issues to consider when outside with a partner is whether to talk about vibrators openly within the earshot of other people. My partner is comfortable with the topic of vibrators while outside. I tend to shrug off the conversation when he brings it up.
That is why I have set up some rules which help us streamline the use of vibrators while outside. For example, we can talk about the vibrator in less crowded areas. My partner also prefers to text when we are in crowded areas to respect that I dislike talking about vibrators openly.
We have some signals that help us tune up the vibrator from lower intensity to higher intensity to avoid the topic in front of a family or other people minding their own business. When I want max levels, I can lift my fingers gradually until we hit the right notes with my partner.
For higher intensity, or when things get out of control, I can wave two fingers, and my partner will know that he needs to shut down the motor.
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