How to have phone sex? If you are currently in a long distance relationship, making love on the phone may be a way to maintain some intimacy in your couple.
This is an exciting activity that can be just as rewarding as real “sex”, as long as you do it well.
And this is also a great way to prepare for your next unforgettable reunion…
As someone who has used sexting, Skype sex, and even long distance sex toys extensively, I’m here to tell you that my tips below will bring desire and fun back into your couple sex life – through simple phone calls.
Here’s how to do that.
💖 Table of Contents
1. Agree on the limits
First of all, you have to understand that even if you both have your own needs, desires, and fantasies, you do not necessarily have the same way to express them.
For example, some things could genuinely turn off your other half and end this little game over the phone.
That’s not what you want. So in this case, talk about it beforehand.
Is it okay to use crude language? Are you both comfortable with sex on the phone? Should you stay soft? The whole point of discussing your limits is to find the right compromise.
2. Plan a romantic date
After all, it is a remote romantic date.
As such, it is necessary to give it a place of choice in your agenda. Decide on an hour when it will not bother anyone, and you will not be distracted or annoyed by constant interruptions.
It would be embarrassing to get caught, wouldn’t it?
Once the date is scheduled, it’s time to get ready. Do not forget to charge your phone. Otherwise, you risk being cut off in the middle of the act.
Be careful!
Just as if you were making love in real life, it is necessary that you be 100% committed to this activity: lock the door, stop snacking, put your phone in silent mode and switch off all distractions, including Facebook and the Internet.
3. Have the right attitude
You want to feel sexy and attractive because it is a unique moment.
To do this, get in the mood with light music, candles, subdued light, etc. It all depends on what works for you.
Who knows, maybe you feel sexy in your pajamas? Either way, your other half won’t know what you are (or are not) wearing because you’re only talking on the phone.
Before starting the game, it is necessary to raise the temperature gradually. You will not begin the discussion by touching yourself!
First, you both have to get comfortable on the phone to get in the mood. This can be done via sexting, a passionate speech, or naked pics.
Don’t be afraid. Relax and do not worry too much about what might happen. Having phone sex with someone you care about is something light and fun to do, not open-heart surgery.
Here we go!
4. Describe at best
If you were here, I would [xxx xxx xxx] then I would [xxx xxx xxx]…
Feel free to describe each of your gestures and feelings. Words are the only thing that matters, and that can ignite your conversation and the thoughts of your partner.
Indicate calmly and confidently what your intentions are. Describe in detail what you would do to him/her if they were here, or what you are wearing right now so that your partner can clearly visualize the scene and join you.
For this reason, you must choose the dirty words that will have the strongest impact, and that will give your other half that sexy feeling, too.
You are not his/her doctor, so add more emotion and sensuality when describing different parts of your bodies.
5. Touch yourself
Naturally, you are invited to touch your body parts throughout the process in order to satisfy your physical needs with your partner.
If possible, make sure you achieve orgasm together to share an experience still more intimate.
By giving juicy details to your other half on this subject, you will simply make him/her crazy and impatient to be with you.
Tell him/her how you are touching yourself and ask how he/she is rubbing her/himself.
6. Listen
Although it would be satisfying to spend your time describing what you would do to your partner, phone sex should be an exchange.
You want the conversation to be sexual yet also balanced, both partners satisfied with the outcome of the phone call so you can do it again sometime.
Listen to your partner and adapt your speech to his/hers.
You can make it even more personal by referring directly to some of their physical attributes, fantasies, or preferences.
It’s much better than having two egocentric monologues, right?
7. Start again
Maybe the first time will be weird or even embarrassing. Maybe it was strange saying those dirty words out loud for the first time.
The best solution for this is to repeat this naughty date in order to dissipate any discomfort and nervousness. Between two people who care about each other, there can be no shame for showing this love in a physical way while on the phone.
Over time you will develop a real ability to master “dirty talk”, that is, sexually explicit discourse.
And then, it’s still quite fun!
If you want more advice on how to really make love remotely, I advise you to check out these articles that summarize the best ways to do it in a LDR.
I’m sure you are gonna like it…
