Sexting is great for couples in long distance relationship, just like for others.
This way of communicating one’s desire is exciting, intimate and a perfect reminder that this relationship is more than just friendship.
However, problems sometimes arise over sexting.
Some messages can be misinterpreted, create discomfort in the couple or sometimes even be made public, voluntarily or not.
Making love by text messages is, after all, something quite personal, unusual and that nobody explains to us how to do.
So here are some tips to master the art of sexting as a LDR couple and succeed with your hot messages.
1. Minimize risks
I am sure that you don’t want your sexy and private photos or your messages to end up on the Web.
To do this, the best way is to use a reliable application, such as applications dedicated to couples in a long distance relationship (Between, Couple or Avocado), or WhatsApp, which encrypt your messages (unlike the messages of your phone).
Snapchat is also advised, but only with people you truly trust, because the means to retrieve photos after consultation multiply at a fast pace.
So, be careful to whom you send your sexy message, not to mistakenly forward your message to your boss, mother or neighbor, but also to be sure your other half is worthy of it because he/she loves you and is trustworthy.
2. Protect your identity
If despite the use of a safe tool you are still afraid to leave pieces of evidence, consider concealing your identity on the photos or videos.
For this, send either “proper” photos of you, or naked pictures where your face or any distinctive sign cannot be seen.
This latter solution can also turn out very sexy, in the sense that your partner will be impatient to see more.
On your side, gain the trust of your partner by doing your part of the job: don’t record the messages and pictures you receive and keep that only in your mind.
3. Get comfortable
Each couple has its own intimacy and rules.
If you are not comfortable with the idea of sending hot texts to your partner, then take your time. It makes no sense to go too fast, especially when it comes to sexuality.
Make sure that confidence in the couple is at its peak before starting, so that none of you feel uncomfortable.
Also, be sensitive to your partner’s comfort zone and his/her reactions. Breaking monotony is often beneficial, but not when one goes beyond the limits.
Moreover, forget about sexting if you have drunk alcohol. Otherwise, it could result in considerable embarrassment the next day …
4. Be yourself
Even if sexting can be something very new to you, stay as natural as possible and do not turn yourself into another person.
Very clearly, you don’t need to resemble a pornographic actor or actress and hypersexualize your messages more than necessary.
It is quite likely that if your other half is already with you and wants to exchange sexual texts, then he/she is somehow already yours.
Be original and arouse his/her curiosity, but don’t fall into caricature. Explore each others’ fantasies and send only the things that you would also say in real life.
5. Listen to your partner
Here we are talking about making love by texting. This implies listening to one’s partner, as you would in real life.
Let your partner know that there is no problem about sexting and that he/she doesn’t need to feel embarrassed. You will feel more comfortable, which will allow you to go further in your sexy messages.
If you want to put the odds in your favor before sending your first sext, ask your partner what the limits are as well as what he or she finds exciting.
Then you only have to play with the rules in mind!
Photos or not, romantic clichés or not, when your partner is at work or not … It is YOU who decides, according to your desires and those of your partner.
Be sure to stay light, sexy and seductive in your messages for better results!
Sexting is a must today, but it is not totally safe.
Talk about it together and go ahead gradually. Be sure you know what you are doing first and then have fun!