You’ve met the man of your dreams! What a feeling!
You thought it would never happen. Just before you allow yourself to get lost in “Cloud Nine” you’re jerked back into reality, realizing that this relationship is going to have to weather a long-distance situation.
You immediately think, “Will he be faithful to me?”
I could totally understand the concern. Even in relationships where people are in close proximity to each other, fidelity is still a huge deal. When it comes to men being faithful, whether they are close or far away, faithfulness really depends on their character.
If a man has great character and he understands faithfulness (because it’s a part of his character), then yes, absolutely. A man can be faithful in a long-distance relationship.
So, what really needs to happen is to “feel” it out to see if he has the character to be faithful.
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1. Why Did Any of His Previous Relationships Fail?
So, why did any of his previous relationships fail? Of course, this is assuming he has had previous relationships before you!
Knowing that could be a good sign as to whether or not he would be faithful in a long-distance relationship.
- Do you know his history with any of his partners?
- Have you seen or known him to go through a lot of partners?
If so, then you might want to try and figure out why.
If he was unfaithful to them while being close, then he will probably be unfaithful to you being at a distance.
His response to your initial inquiry about it could tell you something! Say you decide to ask him about previous relationships, does he get defensive? Or, does the conversation flow easily? A man who doesn’t have anything to hide will not be defensive.
You should also be wary of a man who finds fault with every relationship. You can spot this by listening closely to what he says about his exes. “She didn’t understand me.” or “We wanted different things for the future.” or “She would find fault with everything I did.”
While these may seem harmless enough on the face of it, a handful or more of women went before you and found his character to be lacking in some way. This is important!
2. Look for the Longing
When a man longs for you, you will know it! NO other woman fits into his world as you do.
The situation around your relationship, whether you are near or far, will not quench his longing for you. If he genuinely longs for you, he probably will not be longing for another woman at the same time.
When a man is smitten by a woman from the core, usually, no other woman can really get to him on that level. The good news is, if you sense a deep longing coming from him, that is probably an excellent sign that he will be faithful in your long-distance relationship.
The longing from him is more than just butterflies in the stomach! It is a longing that moves him to action. It moves him to get his life in order to bring you into his life permanently.
If you don’t sense the longing for you and it feels like you’re kind of an afterthought in his schedule, pay attention. Then beware of what is capturing his attention, is it other “friends”?
Everyone has the ability to make time for what they really want!
3. Does He Make Sacrifices to See You?
Long-distance relationships are costly on multiple levels. It requires you or anyone to go the extra mile, especially when it comes to finances. You have to spend money to see each other! Is that something that he is willing to do?
Within reason, of course, it may not be realistic for him to fly out once a month to see you. But, does he make a genuine effort to come out and see you? Or, is he spending his money elsewhere and everywhere? Is he making it a priority to come and see you?
On the flip side, when you are trying to see him, does he:
- clear his schedule to spend his time with you?
- keep putting you off?
- make excuses for why it’s not a good time to come and see him?
If this happens often, this could be a red flag.
4. Are You in His Future?
When he talks about plans for a career, going back to school, or building a business, is he including you?
In those conversations, does he see you being involved in his future plans? Or, when he talks to you about his future plans, does it seem very singular? Does it seem like he’s not really thinking of you being involved in all of his future endeavors?
You want to know that you are in his long-term plans. Otherwise, you could risk being replaced by someone who lives close by and is his priority instead.
5. Your Gut Might Know
Lastly, what do you feel in your gut?
You have senses that alert you. Sometimes they become dulled down because of stress, media stimulation, being overly busy, and so many other things. At times, it is easy to ignore what we really feel to be true.
What is your gut saying when you think about this man and this long-distance relationship? Do you really feel like he is all in it? Or is your gut telling you something different?
Pay attention to what your senses are telling you. As you do, outer circumstances will normally confirm what you are feeling.
Also, listen to what your friends are telling you. If they start to confirm things that you are feeling, it could be a clue into whether or not your man will be faithful! Do not go run off and make rash decisions, but see it as an alert.
See it as a signal to a potential problem in the near or far future!
Signs He Is Faithful: Conclusion
In closing, determining if a man can be faithful in a long-distance relationship, again, is really based upon his character.
A person of good character is truthful, and wants to do good at all costs.
A man of good character would never want to purposefully hurt you. He will want to tell you the truth, even if it disappoints you. He would never want to lead you on. He respects you, always.
A man lacking in character will be the opposite.
If you are willing to see things as they really are (whether for the good or for the bad), there will always be signs and symptoms around, to tell you if you’re going in the right direction.
His character will show you whether or not a man can be faithful in a long-distance relationship!
Am in a LDR for three years now I love my boyfriend with all my heart and I will never cheat on him that’s how much i love him I promise him I will not do anything to hurt him
Am in a long distance relationship… I do love my partner…. It’s been a year and some couples months being together.. Am grazy about him.. My gut is always telling me that his faithfully… We do communicate every single day… We used to seeing each other after 3months…i love loving him… And he also loves me