If you are in a long distance relationship, the possibility that your partner might be cheating on you must have crossed your mind at least once.
After all, you could tell yourself that putting up with the abstinence and the absence of physical contact for such a long time is impossible for many people.
I can assure you that according to several studies, long distance relationships are no more likely than others to result in infidelity. Quite the opposite.
For all that, though, you must not be naive, because, in certain situations and circumstances, it is legitimate to wonder about it.
Here, therefore, are several long distance relationship signs which could potentially indicate that your partner is cheating on you and is hiding it.
Even at a distance, the truth always ends up coming out…
27 Signs that Your Partner is Cheating on you in a Long Distance Relationship
- Your partner suddenly changes their behavior or way of communicating with you, leaving you feeling confused and hurt.
- Your lover seems a lot less available than before to talk to you, outside of work, on weekends, and even on holidays. It’s as if they have somewhere better to be.
- Each time you call your partner, he or she always seems to be a little thrown and taken aback, surprised that they now have to take your unexpected call.
- Your partner prefers to call you rather than the other way round. Your spontaneous calls go unanswered until they seem to be in a better position to talk you out of earshot of whoever they may have been with.
- Your lover does not display your relationship status publicly on Facebook or any other social media sites.
- Your partner has already cheated on you in the past and does not seem ready to change.
- Your lover talks to you more and more about one person in particular or about a new group of people that he or she is involved with.
- Your partner no longer bothers to introduce you to his or her friends and family members.
- The stories and anecdotes that your lover tells possess a large number of holes and inconsistencies. What they’re saying simply rings hollow in your ears.
- Your partner does not wish to share long distance intimacy with you. Sex dates and play time are no longer offered or suggested as ideas for connecting.
- Your lover has more friends of the opposite sex than you, especially on social networks and in photos. While this is not necessarily cause for concern, it could be a warning sign if they would rather be out enjoying themselves with these people instead of spending time with you.
- Their phone is often out of battery, out of credit, or in airplane mode. This happens often, and not always during working hours only.
- Your partner is no longer involved in your relationship and doesn’t want to enjoy passing time with you.
- Your lover takes far too long to respond to your texts, only to finally send short and disinterested replies. A good example of this is when you send meaningful texts and receive an emoji in return, often not even applicable to what you wrote.
- Your partner argues with you whenever the opportunity arises. You dread connecting because the tone of conversation is distressing or hurtful, leaving you feeling sick with worry.
- Your lover refuses to participate with you in video calls (because it is easier to lie by text or on the phone?).
- Your partner reacts aggressively when you express your doubts and criticism. He/she becomes defensive or accuses you of being jealous or insecure.
- Your lover doesn’t listen when you are talking, doesn’t remember what you have said, is never happy for you, and always seems to have something else on their mind.
- Your partner no longer says « I love you », because he/she feels guilty or no longer feels that way.
- Your partner ducks your phone calls and forgets your text and Skype appointments.
- Your lover agrees to meet up with you then suddenly changes his/her mind and cancels everything, for no good reason.
- Your partner responds to your questions with extremely vague answers in order not to raise your suspicions.
- Their mood is unstable: one day he/she is exceptionally agreeable, the next, he/she is scratchy and irritable.
- Your lover always has excuses (not enough time, tired, schedule, etc.).
- It matters little to your partner that you no longer talk about your future together.
- Your lover no longer uses pet names to talk to you and calls you by your real name.
- Your partner changes their appearance overnight (hair, clothes, style, etc.).
One additional sign not listed above: You scroll through your chat memories with your long-distance significant other only to realize they’ve deleted random (possibly incriminating?) messages and chats. When you ask about this, their excuses don’t add up (cat pressed a button, I wasn’t paying attention, thought I was in this or that group, etc.).
Be careful. If you notice some of these LDR cheating signs in your partner’s behavior, that doesn’t definitely mean that your partner is cheating on you or is lying to you!
But it is vital to ask yourself the question.
Analyze their behavior over time and don’t make any hasty decisions. If your doubts increase and their inconsistencies are too many to count, ask for sincere explanations.
If you realize that your partner is lying to you again, then follow your instinct.
If on the other hand, your partner appears honest and open, it may be best to try to overcome your own jealousy and insecurity.
