Being part of an intimate relationship where you have a connection with someone and truly feel for, and care about that other person, can be an extremely fulfilling feeling.
In such relationships, you feel more alive, more joyful. The sun seems to shine brighter, the breezes are a lot more refreshing, and you simply just feel more there. In such intimate relationships, you will want to express yourself to your partner, in every possible way that you can.
You will want to share the many thoughts within the deepest parts of your mind and emotions within the deepest parts of your heart. You will want to express yourself physically – in a way that tells your partner how much you respect, admire, and care about them.
But in some cases, this does not come so easily.
In some instances, your partner is not near you enough for you to get all of this positive energy out. Sometimes you’re in a long-distance relationship, where your partner is a few states away, or halfway across the world on another continent.
So, how do you express yourself physically to your partner, when the two of you are in a long-distance relationship?
- Each of you can send naughty pictures of yourselves to your partner.
- You can send explicit gifts.
- You can have sexually arousing conversations through text messaging (sexting).
Or you can do what quite a few long-distance relationship couples have found success in – Facetime sex.
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What is Facetime Sex?
FaceTime is an Apple product that works only on iOS or Apple devices. It’s basically a video calling app, with some messaging functionality thrown in. The video capabilities the app brings to the party are so good, that any video connection is now referred to as ‘Facetime’.
And ‘Facetime’ literally means “your face in mine while we spend time together”. Facetime sex therefore refers to two or more people engaged in video sex.
It doesn’t matter which app you use to do it because it’s all just ‘Facetime’ now, whether that’s on Skype, Zoom, Facebook, WhatsApp, or even FaceTime! The #1 decision-maker in which app you will use is connectivity and connection issues.
Facetime sex allows you to experience your partner in nearly every way that you would, had they been physically in the same room as you. Through Facetime sex, you can show your partner just how much they mean to you and truly let yourself go.
But for those not familiar with the concept, we are going to go over all of the different aspects of it for you, including:
- the best video chatting services you can use.
- how to communicate with your partner through Facetime sex.
- different ways you can spice up your Facetime sex.
- and how to show empathy to your partner during Facetime sex.
Why Communication is Key During Facetime Sex
Now that we’ve gone over the basics of different popular video calling and chatting apps, let’s talk about communication during Facetime sex.
In any intimate relationship, “communication is key.” Good communication with your partner will only strengthen the bond between you two. With Facetime sex, communication is even more important.
With Facetime sex you do not have the luxury of having your partner right next to you, where you could physically take their hands and guide them through, what you do and do not like. Explaining these things during Facetime sex could be a challenge.
According to quite a few couples in long distance relationships, the first time a couple has Facetime sex is most likely going to be a spontaneous thing. After the first time you’ve had Facetime sex with your partner, wait a few days for the initial feelings and then approach them in an open and frank way to talk about the things that you did and did not like about the experience.
It would be a little presumptuous to assume your partner is going to know “exactly” what puts a smile on your face without first getting to know your likes and dislikes.
If they really care for and respect you, they will listen to your thoughts with an open mind. And because they care about you, they will be eager to give you pleasure, in the ways that matter most to you.
If you have had sex with your significant other already, then you will most likely know how they like to be pleased sexually.
But since you guys are still “at a distance”, it will be a great idea to talk things over with them, about what each of you would like to do in those moments, and what each of you feel you both should stay away from.
This type of conversation will bring the two of you even closer together because it will show how much you care about and respect each other. It will also help you establish boundaries, and quickly find out if this is the right relationship for you.
Reasons to Be Honest About Your Likes and Dislikes
Being honest in any intimate relationship is important, but in a long distance relationship being honest is “way more” important, especially if you’re going to have Facetime sex and then discuss your likes and dislikes afterwards.
When you first begin having Facetime sex with your partner, things can be a little tricky, and you each will have to learn what feels right for you and what does not.
But when you are consistently honest about your feelings to your partner, “the trust,” will be begin to grow stronger and stronger. This will give each of you a reason to be willing to let your guard down more, and it will also have each of you wanting to try more things as your guards lower.
Ways Not to Judge or Criticize What You See or Hear
Being judgmental in any relationship can cause a whole lot of pain for the person being judged, but in an intimate relationship where your guard is naturally very low, that judgment can hurt 10 times more.
With this in mind, you need to be empathetic towards their thoughts and feelings, what they do and don’t like, and especially their body when having Facetime sex with your partner.
Being fully exposed, you are in a vulnerable state, and you will want to know that your partner will not pass judgment on you, or criticize you for your body shape or size, or a particular scar you may have.
Understand that the decision to have Facetime sex was not taken lightly, and that they have extended a hand of trust to you. Be kind, respectful, empathetic, and receptive as your partner opens themselves up to you in this way. They are doing so because they trust and care about you.
Let them know how amazing they look. Tell them how beautiful their body is. If they are self-conscious, and seem hesitant as each of you begin to undress be mindful and kind to their insecurities, and hesitations. Let them know that, if they are not comfortable or not yet ready to take that step, it is perfectly fine. The two of you can come back to that moment at a later time.
It is very important to show that you have no problems being patient and empathetic in those moments. This will make the feelings between you two grow stronger and more meaningful.
Facetime Sex Tips for Women Towards Men
Now that we have talked about some general rules to follow during Facetime sex, here are some tips ladies, for how to have Facetime sex with your man. For men, they tend to get sexually stimulated more off of what they see versus what they hear.
So, what this means is you will need to be creative during Facetime sex . Maybe tease them a little as you begin to undress, and take off more and more as you go. It’s alright to use your words, but if you are not revealing anything while those words are being spoken, they can easily be lost to him.
Seductive words are nice to start with, but without revealing anything, your sexual teasing game has a strong possibility of losing its power with him. And what started off as a fun game between you two can end with him becoming annoyed (i.e. sexually frustrated).
You don’t have to show him everything all at once, but as you begin speaking a few seductive words in his ears, maybe slowly let down one bra strap (or gown, or lace strap).
You can then slowly massage that side of your body, saying his name as if it were him massaging you. Then do the same on the other side of your body, with the other bra strap (or gown, or lace strap).
Then reveal your breasts, one at a time. Once you have both of your breasts revealed, maybe look into the camera on your device as you massage yourself (as if were him) and slowly say his name, over and over.
This can really turn the heat up for both of you, making him tune everything else in his mind out, so at that moment, all that matters is you.
Massage your upper body, saying his name, slowly, seductively, over and over. Look directly into the camera letting him know with your eyes that no one else matters but him.
And if he feels that your look is genuine, he will reciprocate, and return back the same unmistakable, genuine look.
As you massage your upper body, saying his name (and you feel that the feeling and vibe is right, and you feel comfortable going further), then slowly move your hand down towards your beautiful lady area… And let your imagination take you as far as you feel comfortable going.
What Should Women Wear During Facetime Sex
During Facetime sex, it is important to create a fantasy for your man. That’s how you make him get lost in your sexual aura each time the two of you have Facetime sex – making him want you more and more. A great way to do this is to try different types and styles of sexy lingerie.
You can ask him what types of lingerie he likes, but this can be an amazing area of discovery between the two of you, because what he may have strongly disliked on one of his exes, he may adore on you.
So instead of asking him what types of lingerie he likes, why not try introducing different styles to him, as a sort of fantasy of discovery, enjoyment, and sexual connection between the two of you.
Toys for Women to Use During Facetime Sex
Like discovering what types of lingerie he likes, by trying different types and styles, at different moments, you can create the same type of fun games of discovery by choosing to introduce sex toys.
You may start off with introducing different types of sex toys during these private moments between the two of you as a surprise to him, or you may tell him to send you a sex toy and just pick something that he thinks you will have fun with.
Either way, whichever toy the two of you decide to go with can turn out to be quite a bit of fun and discovery. And combining sexy lingerie with some interesting sex toys can make his sexual desire for you go through the roof.
Facetime Sex Tips for Men Towards Woman
Now that we have gone over some tips for Facetime sex for women towards men, it’s time to turn things around, and talk about tips for sex over Facetime for men towards women…
As we dove deep into the topic of what turns men on and what would truly excite them (during Facetime sex), we saw that it was more about the visual than anything else.
Even though men have quality imaginations, when it comes to sexual encounters their arousal is geared more towards what they see.
For women, it is all about stimulating their minds. If you cannot stimulate their mind, then the sexual enjoyment for them will be very minimal.
So, when you and your partner feel turned on, you will need to stimulate and arouse her mind before her body will follow. This is true whether you and your lady have a planned Facetime sex date planned, or while having a spontaneous sexy Facetime conversation with her).
Depending on her personality, she will let you know the type of words and what tone of voice that will get her juices flowing freely.
Use gentle words to begin with, such as “You’re the most beautiful woman I’ve ever met.” or “You have the most enchanting eyes I’ve ever seen.” or even “Your skin is smoother and softer than silk.” This may be enough to get her in the mood, while other women will need “stronger” language to set their passion on fire.
Guys, discovering what words turn her on, can be “immensely” satisfying for her, so (depending on her personality), you can either talk with her about what she does and doesn’t like beforehand, or you can try different words out and see which ones put a smile on her face. It is then that she will give you a strong look of approval, that says, “I want to jump through the camera and rip your clothes off.”
Role-Play Outfits During Facetime Sex
A game that can be a whole lot of fun for both parties during Facetime sex is role-playing.
Being that each of you may be a great distance away from each other and have to use a screen to connect, by creating role-playing scenes the experiences can feel like a personalized movie, tailored specifically towards you from your lover.
For the role-playing, you each can go with just your normal clothes and maybe add accents to add a little flavor to the moment, or if you want to go full throttle and add a lot of flavor to the moment, you can each buy costumes and create a “stylized fantasy” for your partner. This can be extremely fun, very fulfilling, and totally satisfying.
Background Music During Facetime Sex
For some couples, their love-making moments are quiet, and the only sounds are those that come from the two lovers at different times in that sexual experience. While for other couples, they have their own personal “love-making soundtrack”.
This is an area where you and your partner may want to feel things out. If the two of you have talked about the different styles of music or artists that you each like beforehand, then introducing the music that interests each of you the most during Facetime sex can be very enjoyable.
You can maybe try where one of you plays music for your sexual encounter, and the other just enjoys it as well, or you can both try turning to a shared favorite internet radio station that plays a style of music that you both love. This will keep the mood the way you both want it to be and allow it to play in both of your backgrounds.
Either way, discovering which method works best for both of you will bring you a whole lot closer.
Video Chatting Programs
Facebook Video Chat
Facebook used to be the number one social media site (but has slipped off that throne over the last few years). Even though it is not that high up on the social media list any longer, it still offers many great features, such as its “Facebook Video Chat”.
Facebook Video Chat is Facebook’s free video calling feature. This feature works on all computer devices with an internet connection.
If you are on Facebook when your partner is in the mood for Facetime sex, this could be a great convenience, but can a little troublesome.
If you are enjoying one of those amazing intimate moments with your partner, you may start receiving Facebook calls and messages popping up from a bunch of your Facebook friends and posts trying to get your attention.
A better video calling service than Facebook’s “Video Chat” is the “Facebook Portal”, but be aware that this is not a free option.
Although both of these Facebook video calling options offer great videos during your calls, Facebook Portal’s videos almost look like something out of a movie and offer exceptional quality.
Google Hangouts
Next up is “Google Hangouts”, which is the 2nd most popular video calling service on our list.
With Google being the number 1 search engine on the planet, it is very easy to see why many people would turn to Google Hangouts when they would like to spend some quality time with their significant other. The calls come in as soon as the person picks up on the other line, and they’re very clear to see.
Millions of couples use this service daily because of its ease of use and accessibility. It is one of those video calling and chatting services that are available on any computer device that has internet capability.
BUT, there is one huge downside to this video calling and chatting service even though it remains VERY popular. This is that it is reportedly quite easy for other people to find their way on to your call!
This can be a HUGE negative if your video call is supposed to be an intimate one, between you and your partner. Before choosing Google Hangouts as your Facetime app of choice, this is something that you may want to think about quite seriously.
Skype
The most popular and well-recognized video calling and chatting service is Skype. This old favorite is free and extremely easy to use. It’s also been around a long time and has a trusted reputation.
Another reason why Skype is so popular is that it is available for use on every computer and Android device that has internet capability. Skype’s video calls come right in, as soon as the person on the other line picks up the phone.
Many couples praise Skype as their go-to video calling service when they’re in the mood for Facetime sex.
The only downside is that the picture quality doesn’t always come in crystal clear, even if your computer or android phone has an HD camera.
How to Have Sex on Facetime: Conclusion
There are a lot of amazing video calling and chatting services available today – some great, and some quite bad – and the ones that we have shown here today are highly rated and (besides Facebook Portal) they’re free.
If you have not tried any of these services yet, it is suggested that you first find the one that is compatible with your current device. Second, choose the one that has the easiest learning curve.
Third, choose the one that has the highest quality video picture, and the most important thing, fourth, make sure that the one that you choose has great security and privacy…
When enjoying Facetime sex with your partner, your current communication will become very different.
Men, for your woman, you will have to stimulate and arouse her mind in order for her body to follow. Tell her what she wants to hear and how she wants to hear it, and she will flow into the mood that you desire her to be in.
Ladies, for your man, tease him a little, say a few seductive words, but understand that he is naturally more aroused through visual stimuli. What you show him and physically reveal to him will heighten his senses and set the mood more easily.
The more comfortable the two of you become during Face time sex, the more creative and adventurous you may want to become.
You can try spicing things up with a little role-playing. Allow yourselves to get lost in each other’s fantasies, and as your conversations begin to change, don’t judge or criticize your partner. This will make them feel sad, insecure, and possibly angry, which will not help either of you.
Listen to what they have to say. Be kind, be respectful, be patient, and your Facetime sexual experiences will grow and grow, until the two of you are able to wrap yourselves up in each other’s arms when you meet face-to-face.
