Sexuality must not be a taboo subject, even if you live in a long distance relationship. No matter how old you are, how long you have been in this relationship, or the distance between you.
Intimacy in a long distance relationship is just as crucial as in a traditional relationship.
The difference lies in how to express this intimacy. Say goodbye to physical contact, kisses, hugs and… sex.
Now the foundation of the couple is completely upside down. We give up on taste, touch, and smell, and we depend more than ever on our sight and our hearing.
But then, can we still share intimate moments together remotely? In other words, can we still make love with our partner? Can you still have sex in a LDR?
Well, “technically”… no.
(Although, as you will see in this article, technology increasingly seems to be destroying the barriers that used to separate two beings.)
But that is actually fine. Because when you think about it, the primary interest of making love with our other half is not so much to feel an intense physical pleasure through our senses.
It is much more than that. Otherwise why would you not just do it yourself and stay single?
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Long distance relationship sex tips
We are currently in a society constantly connected and “infoxicated” by new technologies. In the field of sexuality, this has repercussions too.
The Internet, social networks, and apps to exchange messages with other people have opened up access to the sexual universe, not only because of being able to link up and meet people outside your immediate social circle, but also because it’s now easier than ever to have sex online.
So if it is normal nowadays to do it with people online, can you do it with people you are just meeting or with strangers…? Why not give it a try with your usual partner? Did your girlfriend get a job in another country? Your lover had to travel for a scholarship and now wants virtual sex?
Whether they’re gone away for a couple of weeks or indefinitely, DO NOT listen to friends who tell you that it’s impossible to maintain a long distance relationship. Although most long distance relationships do not have the best reputations, it is possible to overcome the kilometers of distance with a lot of patience and a solid investment of your time.
So let’s see, how to face the nostalgic night when our couple is starting their workday in another corner of the world?
In this article we will first review a series of long distance relationship (LDR) sex tips that can help you maintain the bond with the person you are so interested in.
Learning some concepts
It is important first to differentiate what is sexting and cybersex.
- Cybersex refers to the practice of online sex, so that you get to simulate a sexual relationship. Statistically, most people confess to having practiced it. Initially they start with texts, then images and finally with video sharing.
- On the other hand, sexting involves the exchange of text messages that have a sexual connotation.
Currently sexting beats cybersex in the stats, which had its moments of glory with the old webcams.
Whether you and your partner prefer sexting or cybersex, both practices (taking care of some details we will explain here) allow you to creatively develop an intimate relationship with a long distance partner.
So get your creative juices flowing and embrace all the aspect of long-distance sexual intimacy in your relationship. Who knows… it may just be the lifesaver you needed in your sinking long distance relationship.
First steps
So… how to start?
There are so many ways to get started increasing the sexual intimacy in your relationship. If you’re a little camera shy, try some of these daring, yet off-camera tips:
- send a message with sexual connotations using text or voice.
- take a sexy photo without your face included and send it to your partner to surprise her/him.
- when you are alone in bed at the end of the day, call your partner and describe what you are wearing (or not wearing). Whisper all the things you would do if she/he were there with you now.
Clearly, things will get hot and most likely everyone will end up masturbating. At first it will be a bit strange, but you’ll quickly get used to it.
The next step may be the video call.
The experience can be much richer and more enjoyable if you communicate via Skype through your phone or computer. That way you can see your partner live and direct.
Of course, if the conversation on the phone embarrassed you a little, video calls may be more difficult for you at first, but not to be discouraged! Not only does it get easier, it also gets more enjoyable as you learn to relax and have fun.
Find a time of day when you are both calm and unhurried, have full privacy, and have enough time to practice cybersex with your partner.
It is important that one of you not try and force the situation. Take a minute to verify that it’s a good time to try this, that you have enough time to play, and that this is the right moment for both of you.
Here, sexting is a great tool that can help you create a communication routine for your “date nights”. This will also help reduce your uncertainty and anxiety about the sexual date.
Advantages of the LDR in the sexual field
There is a greater degree of intimacy in connecting LDR with your partner, giving you the opportunity to communicate with full attention on your partner. You want to know how she/he is doing, what and how she/he feels, and many other things that are sometimes ignored in a “conventional” relationship because their physical presence makes you take these questions for granted.
When the reunion finally occurs, everything is wonderful. There’s no time to fight, only to catch up, enjoy each other’s company, and live your best moments of passion.
Finally, although this thought sounds a bit selfish and it is not sustainable in the long term, if you want to be in a relationship, remember how good it feels when you do something without explaining anything to anyone.
Internet never forgets. Trust first.
In the case of not having extreme confidence in our partner, it is worth being careful while following these tips:
- Especially in the case of photos and videos, it never hurts to distrust and not show your face.
- Make sure you don’t have any malicious software on your computer. Maybe your partner is not to blame, and suddenly your photos or videos are spread over the Internet.
- Change your passwords from time to time.
- Delete the sexual content of your mobile or PC quite frequently. Remember that phones can be lost, stolen, etc.
Do not reduce sex to the online world only. It is essential for a couple to organize a trip and spend time together every now and again.
Although it can generate a lot of impatience and anguish sometimes organizing the reunion too early, it is also a way for the couple to have a common horizon and a shared relationship goal.
Long Distance Sex 101: the 4 Best Methods
Here are 4 ways to have sex in your long distance relationship that should allow you to stay in harmony with your partner and your desires.
These 4 methods are ranked from the most passive to the most fusional. The last one even allows you to exchange physically with your other half…
1. Sexting and Mobile Apps
Today, it can be stated without any hesitation that sexting has been largely accepted. And for a good reason!
The advantage of erotic texting is that it allows you to express your most naughty thoughts without leaving your comfort zone behind. Simple and effective, this one goes straight to the point with minimal effort.
Here’s how to sext like a pro:
- Be creative and decide on your hottest phrases to use.
- Season these with one or more photos on Snapchat where you are more or less dressed and more or less in a provocative pose.
- Wait for your partner to answer.
- Raise the temperature!
Read more about Sexting for LDRs: The Art of Long Distance Relationship Sexting: 5 Tips to Sext Your Partner
2. Phone Sex
Go to the next level by adding your voice to the words you’ve been sending. Phone sex is a great way to enhance your sexual pleasure and express your most intimate fantasies.
Indeed, phone sex is more imaginative than the other alternatives. Having phone sex means each partner gets to describe what they are wearing, what they are taking off, what position and activity they would like to try, or what he/she would do to the other if they were in the same room together right now. Or try role-playing.
Even if it means distorting reality and adding layers to an impossible storyline, the goal is to satisfy your partner!
Then close your eyes and let the whisper of your loved one guide you to climax…
Read more about Phone Sex for LDRs: How To Have Phone Sex In A Long Distance Relationship?
3. Video Call Sex
Skype is one of the oldest and most reliable video platforms out there. It’s been around since the early days of video calling, and is a free and convenient way to please yourself while your long distance partner watches you or joins in simultaneously.
The best part about video call sex is that the need to describe everything in minute detail is eliminated, replaced by visual aspects that words struggle to describe.
All that’s left to do now is to get ready for your video date (outfit, hairstyle, make-up, etc.), make sure everything is working well, and you’re good to go!
To keep your video date interesting and fun, look up apps like “Sex Dice” (available for iOS and Android devices) or the hot and spicy version of “Truth or Dare” that will allow you to launch small erotic challenges. But make sure the door to your room is locked!
Read more about Skype Sex for LDRs: 4 Things You NEED to Know About Skype Sex for Long Distance Relationships
4. Interactive Sex Toys and (Actual) Long Distance Sex
The rise of sex tech has certainly left it’s mark on long distance couples everywhere! These sexual toys are also known as Kiiroo or Lovense devices, and offer their users real-time pleasure.
Smart sex toys are not simple sex toys like the vibrators of days gone by. Nowadays, smart vibrators and sex toys give you the ability to “feel” your partner’s movements, exactly as you would if they were right next to you. Add video calling or Facetime to your session, and you have the perfect solution to REALLY make love at a distance.
FYI, there are several ranges of products made specifically for couples enjoying long distance virtual sex, with prices ranging from just 150$ to 500$ for a pair of sex toys. It is an investment that can truly be worth it, especially if your distance relationship is meant to last for a long time.
7 Long Distance Sex Ideas
When you’re in a long distance relationship, a lot of things are more difficult–including sex.
Absence might make the heart grow fonder, but it’s not doing much for other parts of you!
Fortunately, with these long distance relationship sex ideas, you can keep the excitement alive and enjoy an active sex life even when you can’t be together.
1. Share the fun long-distance style with creative toys
There’s an app for everything these days–including long distance sex!
With a little exploring, you can find app-controlled sex toys for both men and women (sleeves for men, vibrators for women) that can be controlled via an app.
With the right app, you don’t have to be in the same city for them to work.
Even if you’re across the country from one another, you can control your partner’s pleasure, driving them up a wall with the stimulation provided through the toy.
Some toys can even be programmed to work together for even more long distance fun.
2. Engage in a mutual masturbation session
Fire up the phone–or, even better, use Skype or Facetime to connect so that you can look at one another as you engage in a little fun stimulation.
Through mutual masturbation, you can discover a great deal of sexual pleasure without ever being in the same room together.
Want to dial it up a notch? Give your partner permission to tell you exactly what you’re allowed to do to yourself–and vice versa.
You may just discover that you both enjoy handing over control–and that can make your next session together even more stimulating.
3. Make your sexting even more creative
Do you have a Skype or toy session coming up in the near future?
You may already have sent your partner a few steamy texts throughout the day, but when you’re in an LDR, you’ll want to dial the intensity up even more to make it that much harder to resist you.
Send out some creative sexts detailing what you’d most love to do to your partner and how you’re going to fulfill some of those fantasies once you’re finally together. Describe what you’re going to do to please yourself in your next video date to increase the anticipation.
Spend all day fanning the flames of desire so that when you’re able to get away for a session with one another, you’re ready for even more fun.
4. Send fun and sexy gifts
Long distance relationships make special gifts even more exciting.
You may never know when your partner is going to send something special in the mail–or you might tease your partner, letting them know that there’s something fun on its way– without ever fully giving away the surprise!
- Send fun lingerie or underwear to your partner in the mail and ask them to model it for you.
- Send a fun toy that you want to play with the next time you’re together, or a toy you’d like your partner to experiment with in your next online sex session.
You’ll quickly learn to look forward to these sexy surprises–and to open packages from your partner when you’re alone.
5. Take lots of pictures
In any relationship, there’s a balance concerning the types of pictures you want to share with your partner.
While you trust your partner absolutely, some people don’t even want images of themselves naked to be out there.
Fortunately, there are some great solutions that can make it possible for you to enjoy images of your partner without either of you feeling uncomfortable or compromised. Boudoir photography, for example, involves taking incredibly sexy pictures that don’t necessarily share anything.
You can take a page out of the photographer’s book by browsing through some images online, or you can schedule a session.
Send those pictures to your partner all at once or save them and send them out a few at a time: whatever works for your relationship! Keep in mind that it’s not just lingerie or naked photos that are sexy, either.
Does your partner love the way you look in workout gear? Do they get turned on by the outfits you wear for fancy nights out?
Make sure to send along a few of those pictures, too–perhaps with a note about how you’d rather they were the one peeling you out of the outfit.
6. Share your fantasies and online sex ideas
In a long distance relationship, you have the incredible opportunity to share your fantasies with your partner in an open, honest way.
Start by creating a private email account that you only use for emailing your partner.
This simple step will prevent you from accidentally, say, sending a sexy email to your boss, whose first name just happens to be the same as your partner’s.
Then, learn to write out your fantasies–and send them to one another. They can be as detailed or as simple as you like, whether you want to describe exactly what you want to do to them in exquisite detail or you prefer to just send a few words and let them fill in the blanks.
Share stories together. Discuss what turns you on. Not only is this a great way to spice up your sex life even from a distance, it’s an incredible way to get to know one another sexually on a whole new level.
Once you do get together, you’ll have a great list of sexy ideas that you can try with your partner, and that can literally transform your entire sexual relationship.
7. Create a bucket list together
Hey, you’ll be back together eventually, right?
Creating a bucket list of the things you want to do most once you’re side by side again is only natural–but have you considered the benefits of creating a bucket list filled with the things you’d like to do in the bedroom?
Creating a bucket list could be an extension of the fantasies you’ve already shared with one another, or it could just be a great way to make plans and increase anticipation for the next time you’re together.
Your sex life doesn’t end when you’re in a long distance relationship.
While nothing is quite the same as actually having sex with your partner, with these long distance relationship sex ideas, you can spice up your relationship and keep things hot even from hundreds of miles away.
How to Make Love in a Long Distance Relationship: Conclusion
In conclusion, not everything is negative. When two people are far away, greater closeness or complicity with the couple can be generated despite the remoteness, a strengthened trust while sharing fantasies, a kind of security and commitment to demonstrate to the other person that you have an erotic interest you would like to pursue with them.
Self-eroticism (masturbation) reduces stress, depression, and anxiety. It increases self-confidence and feelings of joy, while also strengthening all body systems.
Perhaps there is nothing more exciting for the couple than knowing and seeing the other enjoying.
However, the distance must be something temporary because you are living in a circumstance that forces you to make that effort, but it cannot be extended indefinitely.
Living in the same city or close enough to see each other almost daily should be part of your bucket list or relationship goals.
It’s recommended that you choose a mutual date for both of you to end the distance and finally share the same home, except if you decide not to live together and continue to maintain virtual sex to spice up your sexual routine.
Anyway, at the moment you don’t have any excuse anymore for not sharing intimate moments with your boyfriend or girlfriend remotely.
However, if you feel that your partner is reluctant to try long distance sex, it may be a desire-related problem.
In this case, I recommend you read the article I posted on this subject by clicking here:
Read more about the best sex toys for long distance relationships: Top 5 Best Long Distance Sex Toys (Teledildonics) for Your LDR Dates
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Email account in 2020!!!? Are you nuts? ))) you can use telegram private groups
Sure DENIS. Whatever works best for you 😉
This long distance relationship is killing me and I refuse to die silently.