17 Signs Your Long Distance Partner is Serious About It
With a long distance relationship there are a lot of unknowns and it can sometimes be hard to try and decipher some crucial parts of a long distance relationship.
You spend your time wondering what is going on through your significant others mind and whether or not this relationship is really important to them.
Wondering if your relationship is important to your significant other or if your partner is actually serious about your long distance relationship can cause you to overthink.
The problem is that it can be scary or intimidating to ask them loaded questions like that one. A solution to this problem is to look for the signs. Your long distance significant other will tell you how they really feel without having to come out and say it.
Here are some of the signs that your long distance part is actually serious about the relationship.
1. They Want to Spend Time With You
A big sign that they are serious about the relationship is that they make time for you. Not only do they make time for you but they are excited and motivated to spend that quality time with you.
Sometimes when they start to spend less time with you and make less time for you it can be because they are pulling away from you. Which is why it is important that they are eager to spend time with you.
If you aren’t sure whether or not your long distance partner is eager to spend time with you one of the ways you can tell is if your partner contacts you first.
If you are normally the one who contacts your significant other and plans quality time for the both of you, then try for the day not contacting them first.
You do this to see if they contact you first so that you can tell if they are eager to spend time with you. It is a good indication whether or not your long distance partner is serious and eager about your relationship.
2.They Talk About Future Long Term Plans for Your Relationship
Another sign that your long distance partner is serious about your relationship is that they talk about the future with you or long term plans for the relationship.
This can show up in your relationship in several different ways. One of the ways that this can show up in your relationship is in the form of your partner talking about trips or vacations. You can know that your partner is serious if they talk about wanting to book a trip with you a couple of months or even a couple of years in the future.
This means that they are forward thinking or thinking about a long term relationship with you and aren’t really thinking about how long the relationship will last until it ends.
Another way that you can see if your long distance partner is thinking about the future is that they will mention wanting to either have to move to be with you or have you move to be with them.
If they are willing to talk about the future in that way and are willing to take that leap then you can be sure that they are feeling serious about you and the relationship.
Talking about the future can show itself in many different ways but these few examples are a good basis for you to go by.
3.You Have the Same Goals
Along the way in your long distance relationship I am sure you have talked about goals. Some of them are short term goals and others are long term goals.
Either way it is important that they match up in some way. They do not have to be a perfect match or be completely similar but they do have to lead in the same direction.
You can tell that your long distance significant other is serious when their own goals follow down the same path as yours. That means that they want to continue with you and grow with you in life.
Goals are important for anyones growth so when your partners goals matches up with your own it means that they want to significantly grow with you and become a better person with you.
In a long distance relationship it is important that your goals go with each other instead of separating each other. Some goals go down a different path or are considered opposites of each other.
To see if your partner is serious about the relationship spend some time talking about future goals and where you both want to end up in life.
4.You Are Both Happy
The biggest part of any relationship is that both members are happy being involved in that relationship. You cannot expect the relationship to continue if one or both of you are unhappy.
You can tell how someone is feeling by picking up on their small habits or changes in their habits. If your significant other starts to pull away from you by not responding to you or purposely spending less time with you that usually means that they are unhappy.
On the other hand you can tell someone is happy by the same way. If your partner sends you a gift or even a heartfelt message or letter it usually means that they are happy and in love.
If your partner wants to spend more time with you or seems to be more eager than normal to talk to you it can also be a sign of just being happy and in love. All you have got to do to try and decipher if your partner is serious is to see how happy they are.
5.You Trust Each Other
Trust is important in a long distance relationship. If your partner is serious about you and the relationship one of the things they will show is trust.
By your long distance partner showing you that they trust you it means that they are willing to put that extra risk and work into the relationship.
By trusting you they have opened themselves up to the possibility of being hurt and let down which they would only do if they saw a future with you.
6.They Tell You Their Feelings and Secrets
When someone is serious in a relationship they open themselves up to their significant other. This means that they tell you about their past, their dreams, how they are feeling, and any secrets they want to share with you.
When your long distance significant other opens up to you about personal things like this it usually means that they are serious about you and the relationship. Only people that are serious about a relationship tell their significant other about their personal feelings and their past.
The reason that this is so important for figuring out if your long distance significant other is serious about the relationship is that it takes a lot of trust to tell someone anything personal about yourself.
So if you find your significant other opening about and telling you personal things about them that is usually a great indication that they are serious about the relationship and see this long distance relationship lasting awhile.
7.They Reach Out to You
Another great way to tell if they are serious about you is that they reach out to you in times of need or sadness.
Everybody has rough times and if your significant other does not talk to you or ignores you in their times of need that can sometimes indicate that they are not serious about you or the relationship.
On the other hand if they do confide in you and reach out to you it means that they trust you and see you as someone that they can confide in. If they feel that they can confide in you than that most likely means that they are serious about you and the long distance relationship.
8.You Can Talk About Anything
A sign that they are serious about you and are comfortable around you is that you two can talk about anything. It does not even have to be a serious subject.
If you two can laugh about anything and have made inside jokes with each other that is a pretty good indication that they are serious about the long distance relationship.
Being close and comfortable with each other is important for having your long distance significant other be serious about you and the relationship.
9.They Don’t Come Up With Excuses
If things have been going on in life where the both of you can’t talk as often or spend spend quality time together your significant other isn’t making up excuses for why they have been gone.
In life things can get complicated and that means that your significant other can’t get to the phone as often to talk to you.
That’s okay, but if it starts happening a lot and they give you vague excuses about where they were or what they were doing than it can possibly be because they aren’t as serious in the relationship as you might have thought.
Your significant other needs to be straight forward with you about what was going on. If they are serious in the relationship than they are able to trust you and confide in you about what is happening in their life that they end up being gone so much.
Sometimes it can be hard but it is necessary for the building of trust and seriousness in a relationship. If they don’t come up with excuses that usually means that they are serious about you and the relationship.
10.They Make it a Point to Say Goodnight to You
Making it a point to say goodnight to you is important for feeling loved and remember. When someone does something little yet important like this to make you feel loved and remember it can mean that they really care about you.
People that really care about their long distance significant other tend to want to be serious in their relationship.
So if your long distance significant other cares about you enough to make sure that they tell you goodnight then there are most likely pretty serious about loving you and the long distance relationship.
11.You Had A Big Fight and The Relationship is Still Intact
If a relationship is weak than most of the time it will not survive a big fight.
So if you and your long distance significant other have had a pretty major fight and the relationship is still working than that is a pretty good indication that your partner is serious about being in a relationship with you.
Fights can be especially rough on long distance relationship because you guys are not around each other physically to try and soften the blow. This is why when you have a big fight and survive it means that your relationship is pretty solid and serious.
12.They Cheer You On
Your biggest cheerleader should be your significant other. If your long distance significant other consistently cheers you on then they care about you, your wellbeing, and your future.
In my opinion, that is a pretty good indication that you guys are close and that they are serious about the long distance relationship. Being able to cheer each other on is important for a healthy and serious relationship.
13. They Work Hard to Surprise You Still
Being able to surprise your significant other in a long distance relationship is important on its own. On that note if your significant other works hard to make it a point to continue to try and surprise you than you someone that is important to them.
When you are important to your significant other and they go out of their way for you than a lot of the times that means that they are serious about you and about the long distance relationship.
If they are willing to work hard for you or something for you than that is a pretty big indication that they are serious about you.
14.They Do Not Forget Important Dates
Remembering important dates such as an anniversary or a birthday means that they care about it.
In turn, if they remember the relationships anniversary and if they remember your birthday that means that your significant other cares about you and thinks of you as someone important in their lives.
When they think about you as someone important and as someone that they deeply care about that usually means that you and your guys relationship is something that your partner is serious about.
15.They Miss You During the Day
Missing someone is a normal part of any relationship.
Although, for a long distance relationship the couple tends to miss each other more because they do not get the personal and physical contact to help with the feeling of missing the other person in the relationship.
If your long distance significant other mentions pretty frequently that they miss you then it is a pretty safe bet to say that they are serious about you and the long distance relationship.
16.They Make it a Point to Try and Visit You as Much as Possible
In a long distance relationship visitation is crucial for the survival of the long distance relationship. When your significant other makes it a point to visit you as much as they can it can mean that they are pretty serious about you.
This is because taking trips can be expensive and it certainly is never free so they are willing to spend money and time to get where you are. As well as they are willing to spend money to get you down to where they are.
Another reason why it can mean that they are serious about you is that they want to see you and are willingly to do what it takes to do that.
Not everybody is willing to travel to see somebody so if your partner is than that means they are pretty serious about loving you and about being in a relationship with you.
17.They Sent You a Personal Object for You to Remember Them
Having something personal to hold onto from your significant other can really help in a long distance relationship.
In a long distance relationship you can sometimes feel alone so when they send you something personal like a well loved sweatshirt or something along the lines it can help your significant other feel less alone.
Which is why if your partner sent you something to remind you of them it can mean that they are pretty serious about the long distance relationship.
There are many different ways that you can tell that your long distance significant other is serious about you and the relationship.
Between doing something small like making it a point to say goodnight to you every night, to doing something bigger like confiding to you about something personal and so important things like that can really show you that your significant other is serious about the relationship which can give you some peace of mind about your long distance relationship.